Emotional Healing 4

“Absolute honesty isn’t always the most diplomatic nor the safest form of communication with emotional beings”

Ah, it sounds simple enough, being “open hearted”, I mean why not feel Whole, Inclusive, Loving, Free-from-Fear, Relaxed and Content (for example) eh ?

Yet for anyone / anybody who is serious about their Spiritual Path such a state-of-being isn’t always accessible or naturally available eh ?

From experience, Introspectiveness is a necessary element of the “journey” inasmuch as you are attempting to uncover the root of your Unhappiness or Suffering [1], to really touch-upon the Inner-Landscape that sometimes seems to “block” the feeling-of-freedom each of us inherently felt in our Childhood eh ?

So what happened ? It’s my contention each of us are a “product-of-circumstance” [POC] with our early years fully shaped by our parents (or caregivers) in the context of Education (and by Society as a whole) such that there was no control whatsoever over the process eh ? Now later in life, you could argue that your present behaviour stems precisely from HOW you were Emotionally-Cared-For (or not) as a Child eh ?

Thus it is perhaps all-too-easy to point-the-finger-of-blame at one’s Parents (and probably Society) but in so doing it is ignoring the fact that they themselves were also brought up in a simliar-non-volitional-environment and are likewise a product-of-circumstance too eh ?

A suggestion : Observe yourself before projecting “blame” onto (supposed) “others” [2] as if it’s ALL their Fault eh ? 🙏

Now as you “look within” (sometimes painful) memories are allowed to surface bringing to mind their emotional-content eh ? This is where it’s imperative, I’d say, not to get “carried away” (by the contents) but to remain present (the same as with ALL thoughts) and simply allow it to “pass through” (as if reliving it) in a non-attached manner eh ? Because if you accept my proposal [POC] above then truly there is no-one who can be “pinned down” as the real origin of the Emotional Trauma eh ?

Oh, for those that aren’t Aware, practicing Self-Enquiry (asking who am I ?) is, from experience, akin to shining-the-light-of-attention upon INNER dynamic processes whereupon the aggregates-of-the-self are seen as non-constant, in flux, ever-changing, impermanent thus suddenly the ASSUMPTION of a self-entity is cut-through i.e. it loses its seeming “solidity” eh ? But in reading this I do hope you are taking into account the principle of my website which is that it is founded upon the concept of Anatta (no-self) !

Oh, the point is if there is no-self-entity-in-control WHO exists to exercise such “free will” eh ? 😉

“My life is like shattered glass,” said the visitor. “My soul is tainted with evil. Is
there any hope for me?”
“Yes,” said the Master. “There is something whereby each broken thing is bound
again and every stain made clean.”
“What?”
“Forgiveness.”
“Whom do I forgive?”
“Everyone. Life, God, your neighbor. And especially yourself.”
“How is that done?”
“By understanding that no one is to blame,” said the Master. “No one.”

From : Conversations with the Masters (2003)

The Nature of the Mind has never changed ~ Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche [3]

Thoughts manifest themselves within emptiness and are reabsorbed into it like a face appears and disappears in a mirror; the face has never been in the mirror, and when it ceases to be reflected in it, it has not really ceased to exist. The mirror itself has never changed. So, before departing on the spiritual path, we remain in the so-called “impure” state of samsara, which is, in appearance, governed by ignorance. When we commit ourselves to that path, we cross a state where ignorance and wisdom are mixed. At the end, at the moment of Enlightenment, only pure wisdom exists. But all the way along this spiritual journey, although there is an appearance of transformation, the nature of the mind has never changed: it was not corrupted on entry onto the path, and it was not improved at the time of realization.

[1] Oh, I suggest it can help illuminate “difficulties” (if there are any) in relation to your “work” environment, or with your partner / spouse, Friends and Family etc
[2] The Map Is Not The Territory !
[3] The Nature of the Mind has never changed